A problem suffered by multiple couples is the monotony in their sexual life. And you have to take the bull by the horns because if they are not able to gather enough courage to face it in time, it can lead to the breakup of the couple. This is due to what in psychology is known as the hedonic adaptation, which refers to the fact that human beings quickly become accustomed to happiness and get bored quickly if we do not find new ways to achieve it.

In the field of sex, hedonistic adaptation has no gender. Both men and women end unconsciously bored of making love with the same person, and this boredom can be accentuated if the sexual style of the couple is always the same.

Psychologists specialized in couples counseling always advise talking about these issues with the couple and exploring new ways and means of engaging in non-competitive sexual dialogue. Talking about sex with a partner is important to keep the flame burning. The problem lies in the discomfort that this type of conversations can generate in our partners, so it is recommended to follow a series of guidelines to make these conversations are not so embarrassing.

The Preliminaries, The Perfect Time To Talk About Sex

Cold sexual proposals, often receive negative responses, because of the fear or shame which they can generate in our partner. It is also not a good idea to make the proposals once the preliminaries are over since we can catch the couple off guard and make the moment of passion cool.

The key is to do it during the preliminaries when he or she is open to suggestions. The preliminaries should be understood in its broadest definition: a romantic dinner, a kiss, on the way home, etc. You must find the right moment to talk about sex so that your partner feels comfortable.

The Game As A Way Of Fun In Bed

Another way to make proposals to make them attractive, making sex a fun game, is to propose different choices to our partner. A dance, a new posture, or a role-playing game, and our partner must choose the one that most appeals to her. If our partner has liked the idea, we can ask him or her to do the same game for us. In this way, we introduce novelties in our sex life in a fun way and without generating pressure on performance.

Talking About Sex With Our Partner After The Meeting Is Always A Good Idea

The most important thing when introducing something new in our sex life is to know if the novelty has pleased the couple. It may be that it has been lived as a pleasant experience for both, for one of the two or simply everything has been in a shared anecdote more, something that is already valuable.

Therefore, it is essential to talk with our partner during and/or once we have finished commenting if we are enjoying the experience. Talking about sex openly with our partner will help us to lose the fear of trying new things and will improve the quality of our sexual life. Talk and listen too, of course!

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