We have already talked in another article about the characteristics of Peter Pan Syndrome. Behind someone who suffers from this syndrome, there is always a person taking care of him.
The Wendy Syndrome
That person is Wendy, and she has an imperative need to satisfy the other, mainly if it is her partner or her children.
Examples of Wendy’s syndrome would be the father or mother who practically does her/his child’s homework, who wakes him/her up every morning so that he/she doesn’t come late to school even if he/she is old enough to do it alone. And they always seek to make life easy for those around him/her or also the housewife who takes on all the responsibilities in the home so that the husband and children don’t have to do it; or a member of a couple who assumes all the duties and makes the decisions and also justifies the informality of their partner to others.
Characteristics of Wendy’s Syndrome
To make it more transparent, let’s see the characteristics of a person with Wendy Syndrome are:
- It feels essential for others.
- Understands love as sacrifice and resignation.
- Feel the need to care for and protect others by assuming a motherly figure. It ends up assuming the role of the father or mother of your partner.
- Avoid at all costs that people around him get angry or upset.
- Try to make others happy constantly.
- Always seeks to please those around her.
- He insists on doing things and taking responsibility instead of the other person.
- Constantly ask for forgiveness for everything that you have not done or have not been able to do even when the responsibility is not yours.
- It is depressed for lack of attention and depends on social acceptance.
Need For Security
So far, this description can make us remember our mothers and fathers and the reader may think that it is not negative since all this seems nice and altruistic, but Wendy does not do this for genuine pleasure, but this set of behaviors is done by fear of rejection, because of the need to feel accepted and supported and because of the fear that no one will love you. What, in short, leads them to be overly humble to others, is a need for security.
Another negative aspect of this behavioral disorder is that those who suffer from Wendy’s syndrome hardly control their own course in life, so they focus on trying to control the lives of other people. It is also likely that a Wendy mother has a child with Peter Pan syndrome.
Those who suffer from this syndrome hardly recognize that this is their reality and their diagnosis, although it is a non-established clinical entity, is done because people come to the office feeling “burned”, oversaturated or overwhelmed. Those who suffer from this syndrome go to the specialist voluntarily.
As in Peter Pan syndrome is often the origin of the syndrome is in the family background of the sufferer, in which the person felt secluded and unprotected so that in adulthood compensates for the lack of direction and protection before assuming the role of absent fathers. And unlike the Peter Pan syndrome, Wendy Syndrome affects more women than men, this may be due to cultural and educational factors.